Navigating the tricky waters of an ever-changing dating status tide. - confusion ambiguity sex

Post 283836 by eustaciavye87 deleted for the following reason: Heya, quoting at length your private correspondence with an absent third party isn't really a great idea for for Ask Metafilter, and in general this is pushing pretty far into too-long territory; maybe rework this to condense it some and without all the quotation? -- cortex