How to deal with vegan friends who lean militant - diet meat

Post 304833 by a knot unknown deleted for the following reason: Sorry, but this is really more of a rant-type complaint for discussion (about a topic people *love* to fight about) than a direct, clear "how do I solve X problem" -- and blanket generalizations make that worse in terms of trying to avoid the thread becoming chat/debate/fight-filter. This really, really needs different framing if it's going to work as a solvable question here. -- taz