Post 313312 by anonymous deleted for the following reason: Eh, in retrospect I approved this looking too hard for the implied tactical/strategic dating advice question but I think that as framed it is landing too squarely in chatty territory. Asker, a rewrite that's focused more on "how can I deal with this" and less on "is this how things are yes/no" could work if you want to give it another shot in the near future. -- cortex