Post 328272 by Willow251 deleted for the following reason: Once again, AskMe isn't for play-by-play relationship stuff. Please don't continue to ask ongoing "what did they mean by X" / "how can I communicate X" at every step. A therapist can give you the support you want and help you build these communication skills for yourself. Also, this question is also edging into revealing private info about a third party without their consent, which isn't a good direction. -- taz